James 3:1-12
James says if you can control your tongue to the extent that you are never at fault in what you say, then you can control your whole body and if you can control your whole body – you will be perfect. The wisdom and grace which enables one to control one’s tongue also enables one to control all of one’s actions.
Ephesians 4: 29 says, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear”.
Just as a bit directs a horse, just as a rudder directs a ship and just as a spark ignites a raging fire, so the little tongue directs your whole life and those of others. Our words can be very harmful, even deadly. Even when we apologise, we cannot reverse the damage we have done – the scars remain.
You cannot have it both ways. Your language is either salty or fresh. It is either bitter or sweet. You see, a bitter tongue is not made sweet just because you say some nice things every once in a while.
Jesus said in Matthew 15, “What comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart” (Matthew 15:18). If your heart is bitter, your words will be bitter. But if your heart is full of grace, your words will be gracious.
What’s in your heart right now? Bitterness or grace? If you don’t like what you see, then ask God, by His grace, to change your heart.
Ask God to give you a new heart. “Change my heart, O God; Make it ever true. Change my heart, O God; May I be like you.”