Ephesians 4:25-32

Anger is something we all feel at times and we all have different ways of dealing with it. It is not wrong to get angry. In fact, the Bible says here “Be angry, but when you get angry, don’t express it in evil, destructive ways.” Being angry at evil and injustice is healthy and it’s right, righteous anger. But to be angry for selfish and sinful reasons is definitely not healthy, it’s unrighteous anger.

Now when the scripture says, “Be angry but do not sin.” It means do not erupt and start abusing others and do not allow it to turn inward and become resentful and bitter towards others. That is sinful…. “Resolve the anger before the sun goes down…… So that you don’t give a foothold to the Devil.” Unresolved anger becomes material Satan uses for his evil purposes.

When something or someone prevents me from getting my own way, instead of venting my anger at the person or situation I need to ask myself, “Is the real cause of my anger that person, that thing or my selfishness? Is this something that I really need? Do I really have to have it? Is it really what God wants for me or am I simply determined to get my own way? Am I willing to sacrifice it for the sake of Christ and others?” Turn your anger on your selfishness and give it a blast….denying it the right to get its own way.

The truth is that our pride is our greatest internal enemy and it is so destructive to relationships. As long as we hang onto our pride we will never accept the truth about ourselves. We will never admit our faults, failings, and weaknesses and therefore never come to Christ for forgiveness and the power to overcome them. We will never develop a healthy, mature character and relationships will be marked by pride, defensiveness, and resentment.

When we refuse to humble ourselves, accept correction and admit our faults, we actually turn the Lord against us. “God opposes the proud.” James 4:6. There are many people who have caused God to work against them because they will not swallow their pride and humble themselves before Him and others.

The big lie that Satan has sold us is that if we humble ourselves and admit our faults, ask for forgiveness, we will lose face, we will be exposed, humiliated and completely stripped of everything. That lie carries with it real fear.

The truth is that the only thing that will be wounded is our pride, that destructive enemy inside that is always working against us. When we humble ourselves before God and others we gain so much more…respect from others, restored relationships, it helps others work through their hurt, it brings amazing release into our own lives because pride is a very heavy burden to carry, and humility opens us up to God and all His resources. “God opposes the proud, but He gives grace to the humble.” “Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God and He will lift you up in due time.”